The Power Of The Other By Henry Cloud
Introducing Helen Mole to our book club, with her review of The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond – and what to do about it, by Dr Henry Cloud.
"A Great Read"
The book is aimed at anyone with a desire to continually grow and develop in all areas of their life.
About Dr Henry Cloud
American author, Dr Henry Cloud, is an acclaimed leadership expert and psychologist. In 2014, Success Magazine listed Dr Henry Cloud in the top 25 of the most influential leaders in personal growth and development. He is a New York Times best-selling author, whose books (including Boundaries and Changes That Heal) have sold over 10 million copies worldwide.
Outline of the book
In this book, Cloud focuses on a critical ingredient for personal and professional development, claiming that the most important part of success is our connections. Whether we believe others have a powerful influence over our own growth and success or not, Cloud combines engaging case studies, neuroscience and examples of his work with top leaders to argue that outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of interpersonal connections to fuel personal growth. Essentially, Cloud shows us how to grow by using the strength and expertise of others.
He opens the book with a strong case study about a guy who is training to become a Navy Seal. He has a fast-paced and gruelling challenge and, just when he is almost ‘home,’ he almost gives up and can’t go any further. Through the water he sees his friend waiting at the finish line, cheering him on. It gives him that last push to make it.
He also talks a lot about his work with CEOs and leaders of Fortune 500 companies, and the relationships he has with those people. But he also explores the relationships in their lives. Some struggle to ask for help and, interestingly, the most successful admit that they couldn’t do it alone.
The Power Of The Other
To be true to yourself and reach your full potential – whether as a leader, a spouse, a parent – you need others. You need good relationships with strength and power. Authenticity requires relationships – that’s what this book is all about.
This book is a great read and I would recommend it to anyone – especially someone looking to grow both personally and professionally. I found myself looking back at my own personal achievements and failures, remembering who was around me during those events and situations. It made the book so relatable. I agree that the relationships we have influenced our progression, but also that our own personal desires and determination are key drivers to success.